Following the recent Jubilee celebrations here in the UK and the chance for the nation to relax, unwind and party for the four day weekend that we had, here at Reset Parenting we’re asking the question “Why are celebrations important?” and in particular “How does this help our children?”
To some the answer may be obvious but for those that are, maybe, a little bit more reserved or even hate the ideas of socializing at a party or even the “fuss” as they may see it of organising a celebration the answer is a little more complex. Essentially though celebrations run through the whole of life from celebrating the birth of a baby to celebrating anniversaries in future years, successes in life and other opportunities that demand that extra little bit of special attention.
Many celebrations are steeply rooted in pagan history. In ancient times when people wanted to acknowledge an aspect of life that had gone well they would pay homage to the gods and goddesses. Festivals to these gods would be the ancients’ way of saying thank you or for showing their gratitude for the benevolence of these gods. Likewise today many of our modern celebrations are there to honour life itself – to mark a special birthday with friends acknowledging their importance in your life while giving thanks for your life, or to recognize the importance of an event or a person in a particular walk of life.
Celebrations are therefore clearly unique events that uphold the values and standards that are fundamentally exceptional and special to the individuals that promote them. They provide a break in everyday routine to relax and unwind and remember the things in life that really matter. To celebrate something often draws together family and friends and places value on these relationships. In some sense celebrations therefore help us to remember the purpose of life and how powerful our close relationships are.
For children, they are intrinsically important processes that can therefore define values and standards, friendships and relationships, gratitude and honour and promote a sense of well-being, harmony and cohesiveness. For instance the recent Jubilee brought together millions of well-wishers who wanted to join with others to celebrate the Queen’s reign, maybe even her life and acknowledged the dedication and service of this outstanding Lady. Similarly, our birthday celebrations also acknowledge the value we place on a person by celebrating the gift of their life and the relationships that they share with others close to them. These collaborations therefore teach children the skills of socialization, the value that others place on their existence, create a sense of affirmation and strengthen existing bonds.
Celebrations can also pave a positive way of marking a certain achievement or success concentrating on the effort that a child has put into something. For example, in our family we always celebrate even the smallest successes or steps forward embracing the worth that we place on effort, dedication and loyalty. Each of you will have your own reasons for celebrating.
Critically though celebrations do not need to be reserved for those big occasions in life and some would say it is possible to have a celebration for absolutely no reason at all. Essentially then the celebration is about life itself. Whatever the reason for your celebrations though they will certainly enhance life by making it a fuller and richer experience and that, in a nutshell, is why celebrations are important!